Let Him Lead?...

There are a lotta things I would love to talk about. I face the dilemma of wondering in what capacity I blog; is it as Maka the singer or Maka the simple girl with a lotta shit on her mind? I mean, if I were writing as the former, I would probably bore you with music wahala and I know that not everyone is tryna hear that shit all the time. Anyways, last last, like Facebook keeps asking, "what's on your mind?", I can only write about things on mind. So here goes...

I recently read an article titiled, "Letting Your Man Lead". Apparently, sometimes, women are the cause of their misfortunes with men - what with our very feminist and equality era.  What I got from that article was, in as much as women should be pro active and not be intimidated by the men, it does not necessarily apply in the dating field.  The article actually used a quote I really fcuk with, "You can't take away DNA from Dating". Damn! Did you get that? There are the letters D,N,A in the word. Lol. What this means is it is in a man's core to hunt (well, most men sha) so let them hunt! Being chased by a woman is basically a turnoff I guess...this brings back memories. lol. There was this guy I liked back in Undergrad. I could tell he liked me back - or at least, he was interested cos he asked for my number and he called several times. He was a bit shy and I guess I was tired of how slow things were moving so I decided to shoot my shot. Big ass mistake. The minute I took the reins from him, I could tell he was slowly losing interest. Chai. Luckily for me, I realised my rookie mistake and decided to pull back. I stopped calling him. Sometimes, I missed his calls on purpose, you know, forming busy for a nigga. I guess it worked because the balance was restored.

Do I think what happened to me was still kinda bullshit? Hell yeah. Why would you lose interest if I let you know how I feel? Why should I be at the risk of having you think of me as a slut or desperate merely because I saw what I liked and went for it? Sadly, although these my questions make sense die, tis the world we live in apparently. I really am not blogging about this to give advise. I am so not a dating coach; also, I am the last person to give anyone dating advise. Yes yes, I write amazing love songs, and I am awesoome blah blah blah.  I write amazing love songs because its my job to do so. lol.

I will say this one thing though, it does not really matter who initiates the conversation or courting, its all about the vibe both of you have. Don't listen to society tryna drown you in its squareness. Its not about ego, its about the pursuit of happiness. Note the word "pursuit". Men, let a woman chase you. Listen to what she has to say, if you feel the vibe, take control from her. She wants you to lead. She wants you to be THE MAN. Just as the neck supports the head and allows it move in different directions, see our "chasing you" as doing just that. Ladies, note the thin line between being the neck and being a crazy stalker bitch. Its soooo not sexy. You are a Queen. Behave as such.

You gotta know when to drop the mic, so at this point, I bid you adieu!.

1 comment

  • Darola

    Darola Lagos

    Nice write up...when I was in sec. school, a girl I was starting to like once told me she liked me and I didn't respond well. Things never developed between us. I wish she had just waited, I also should have reacted better. But then its just life.

    Nice write up...when I was in sec. school, a girl I was starting to like once told me she liked me and I didn't respond well. Things never developed between us. I wish she had just waited, I also should have reacted better. But then its just life.

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